I think that the parent who has the child should not have to pay child support if they have them for the summer because I am sure that parent will be spending money on food and clothes and activities anyway. If I had a baby daddy I would just tell him to take the money he would pay me and spend it on the child for the summer I think thats only fair.
I agree with you. If the parent keeps the child for the summer (or however long), they shouldn’t have to pay the full amount of child support since they are paying for daily expenses while the child is in their care anyway.
I think whoever keeps the child for the summer, should keep the money. After all, isn’t the money supposed to go towards the watering and feeding of said child??? Hmmmmm
I think the parent that has custody for the summer should not have to pay more than half. I have a 16 year old step-daughter who we pay to fly from GA to MD, all of her summer activities, and we buy most of her clothes for back to school. We pay for all of this and still pay the non-court ordered child support. Needless to say summer is crazy expensive. 2 more years left, thank God just 2 more years!!! Oh wait, never mind, then we’ll be paying for college 🙂
Ex Hubby and I actually wrote our divorce decree that whoever has our DD is responsible for all bills-outside of 1/2 medical emergency treatment. When she’s with me, I pay all travel, food, clothes, etc… When she’s with him, he pays.
Looking forward to checking back in the future. Vlogging is tough, so many kudos to you for going for it. Plus, LOVE your lipgloss and binky graphic- too cute 🙂
Hi! I actually disagree with you, but this is from an attorney’s perspective. The truth is, child support is not only supposed to support the child when he/she is present in the home. Child support is also meant to help provide shelter, including utilities, insurance, and other mainstay items for the child. If the child is away for the summer, the primary parent does not get rid of the child’s primary residence, shelter, health insurance, etc. Those responsibilities remain even when the child is not present. As such, child support is still necessary in the primary residence. Now I do agree that if the child is out of the primary home for an extended period of time (6+ months) then the child support award should be modified, but not for summer breaks. Just my 2 cents! Great topic by the way!
Great vlog. I just started vlogging a few weeks ago. It was nerve racking at first, but I think I get less and less nervous each time I do it.
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Wow, between the vlog and the comments, I think I’ve learned a lot about child support, especially from TheProDiva! Interesting topic and definitely thought provoking!
I had primary custody of my oldest daughter and her father always paid his child support (and would buy her anything extra she needed without question). A time came when she was a teenager that she went to live with him for a while. I immediately dropped the child support and we left it at that. In reality, if he had wanted to, he could have requested support from me for that time. Why would you expect a parent to pay you support for a child they have? Would you pay a mortgage for a house you don’t own? Perhaps, depending on the specific situation, a portion of the support could still be paid but by no means should all of it be paid.
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I don’t even think they should be responsible for any amount if there the child with them during the summer. I heard you mention rent but I don’t think the custodial parent should depend on child support for rent. Honestly, I’ve been a single mom before and I didn’t expect my husband to foot any of my expenses while we were separated. He paid only for those expenses that directly related to Moo and that was it. We both understood that regardless of whether I had Moo or not I was still going to have to pay for rent, gas, lights, etc.
Any money given went strictly for diapers, baby food, medicine, or was saved in her piggy bank. If I needed extra money, I found creative ways to get it like selling on eBay. If a partial payment of child support is made to the custodial parent when the child is not there then it needs to be agreed that it will be put into a savings account and not touched because they don’t clearly won’t have any child related expenses for 10 weeks. Or they can work out a plan where the non custodial parent has to be responsible for purchasing school supplies and back to school clothing and use that money to pay for school lunch when school starts back. I feel that is an even trade off.
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fran
June 7, 2011 at 4:01 pmAbsoultely not! My brother has three kids and their mother tried to make them pay the entire amount. He had to buy them clothes, food, etc.. CRAZY.
Kita
June 7, 2011 at 6:25 pmI think that the parent who has the child should not have to pay child support if they have them for the summer because I am sure that parent will be spending money on food and clothes and activities anyway. If I had a baby daddy I would just tell him to take the money he would pay me and spend it on the child for the summer I think thats only fair.
Tiffany
June 7, 2011 at 8:10 pmI agree with you. If the parent keeps the child for the summer (or however long), they shouldn’t have to pay the full amount of child support since they are paying for daily expenses while the child is in their care anyway.
Baby Shopaholic
June 7, 2011 at 10:45 pmI agree with you! But these hefers still be trippin!
Rose's Daughter
June 8, 2011 at 6:10 amI think whoever keeps the child for the summer, should keep the money. After all, isn’t the money supposed to go towards the watering and feeding of said child??? Hmmmmm
Raina
June 8, 2011 at 10:31 amI think the parent that has custody for the summer should not have to pay more than half. I have a 16 year old step-daughter who we pay to fly from GA to MD, all of her summer activities, and we buy most of her clothes for back to school. We pay for all of this and still pay the non-court ordered child support. Needless to say summer is crazy expensive. 2 more years left, thank God just 2 more years!!! Oh wait, never mind, then we’ll be paying for college 🙂
Kerri
June 8, 2011 at 9:36 pmLove it! I haven’t been brave enough to vlog yet!
Morgana
June 8, 2011 at 9:39 pmEx Hubby and I actually wrote our divorce decree that whoever has our DD is responsible for all bills-outside of 1/2 medical emergency treatment. When she’s with me, I pay all travel, food, clothes, etc… When she’s with him, he pays.
Jenn
June 8, 2011 at 9:40 pmLooking forward to checking back in the future. Vlogging is tough, so many kudos to you for going for it. Plus, LOVE your lipgloss and binky graphic- too cute 🙂
Marie Noelle
June 8, 2011 at 9:40 pmThank you for sharing this on a vlog, this is so much personnal!
I agree with you all the way!
Demika Caldwell
June 8, 2011 at 9:45 pmI don’t think the parent should have to pay the full amount. It should be pro-rated for the summer since it’s longer than the normal visitation.
Trish
June 8, 2011 at 10:44 pmI need to VLOG! Great blog! #commenthour
TheProDiva
June 8, 2011 at 10:45 pmHi! I actually disagree with you, but this is from an attorney’s perspective. The truth is, child support is not only supposed to support the child when he/she is present in the home. Child support is also meant to help provide shelter, including utilities, insurance, and other mainstay items for the child. If the child is away for the summer, the primary parent does not get rid of the child’s primary residence, shelter, health insurance, etc. Those responsibilities remain even when the child is not present. As such, child support is still necessary in the primary residence. Now I do agree that if the child is out of the primary home for an extended period of time (6+ months) then the child support award should be modified, but not for summer breaks. Just my 2 cents! Great topic by the way!
Diane @ OhDiane
June 8, 2011 at 11:10 pmGreat vlog. I just started vlogging a few weeks ago. It was nerve racking at first, but I think I get less and less nervous each time I do it.
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Amber
June 8, 2011 at 11:40 pmYou bring up some very interesting points as it pertains to blended families!
2commentaristas
June 9, 2011 at 12:41 amWow, between the vlog and the comments, I think I’ve learned a lot about child support, especially from TheProDiva! Interesting topic and definitely thought provoking!
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Mimzy Wimzy
June 9, 2011 at 10:27 amI had primary custody of my oldest daughter and her father always paid his child support (and would buy her anything extra she needed without question). A time came when she was a teenager that she went to live with him for a while. I immediately dropped the child support and we left it at that. In reality, if he had wanted to, he could have requested support from me for that time. Why would you expect a parent to pay you support for a child they have? Would you pay a mortgage for a house you don’t own? Perhaps, depending on the specific situation, a portion of the support could still be paid but by no means should all of it be paid.
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Lizzie
June 9, 2011 at 11:43 amI’m really not brave enough to vlog yet, but maybe soon! 🙂 Stopping by from #commenthour
YUMMommy
June 18, 2011 at 7:46 pmI don’t even think they should be responsible for any amount if there the child with them during the summer. I heard you mention rent but I don’t think the custodial parent should depend on child support for rent. Honestly, I’ve been a single mom before and I didn’t expect my husband to foot any of my expenses while we were separated. He paid only for those expenses that directly related to Moo and that was it. We both understood that regardless of whether I had Moo or not I was still going to have to pay for rent, gas, lights, etc.
Any money given went strictly for diapers, baby food, medicine, or was saved in her piggy bank. If I needed extra money, I found creative ways to get it like selling on eBay. If a partial payment of child support is made to the custodial parent when the child is not there then it needs to be agreed that it will be put into a savings account and not touched because they don’t clearly won’t have any child related expenses for 10 weeks. Or they can work out a plan where the non custodial parent has to be responsible for purchasing school supplies and back to school clothing and use that money to pay for school lunch when school starts back. I feel that is an even trade off.