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Can You Be Lazy and Driven at the Same Time?


A few days ago I came across a post on Facebook called 17 Things That Happen When You’re Very Overdriven Yet Also Extremely Lazy At The Same Time   that handed me my whole entire 36 years of living in a little under 17 succinct bullet points. I mean, I was really thinking that Brianna, the author somehow knew me in a never met me kind of way.

I spent the better part of the last two weeks with the poorest attitude ever. Nothing new but the usual..you know what am I doing with my life etc… and then the whole Mercury retrograde thing I’m sure wasn’t helping the situation at all.  I’m sure my husband wanted to pack my things up and send me on my way……to the spa I hope.

One of the issues I was dealing with during those weeks was comparing myself to others and how they do things and why I couldn’t seem to complete things in the same manner. Yes, I know all about the comparison and thief of joy analogy thing…yet and still I found myself studying peoples behaviors and wondered why I couldn’t get my act together and color code my planner, and dust my floors and keep a spotless house.

Then this post was shared to my timeline as if the person that shared it knew that I needed to give myself a little break and be amused that someone knew that my quirks and idiosyncrasies were worth writing about, almost as if to tell other people that I’m not off or lazy but really driven and my behaviors are somewhat normal?

Here are a few that really hit my personality and behaviors nail on:

  • You’re incredibly indecisive, and the things you’re usually choosing between are what’s best and what’s easy. You always find yourself caught between the more expensive item you really want, and the more affordable one you know it would be smarter to choose. Caught between wanting to work more and make your product perfect and knowing you need time to recoup and relax. It’s always a matter of what’s best vs. what’s easy, and it’s a war you’ll be fighting within yourself until you create your own middle ground.
  • You’re either doing everything, or you’re doing nothing at all. There is no in-between. You’re working 14 hour days and meal prepping organic, vegan dishes for you and your coworkers and planning your latest lifestyle reinvention or you’re laying in bed watching Netflix not moving for a week. No matter what it is, you epitomize the “all or nothing” “A-Z” personality (for better and for horribly worse.)
  • You’re either dressed to the nines or you haven’t changed your sweatpants in days. When you deem it appropriate, you know how to craft yourself into an avatar of stylish, fashionable, groomed, suave perfection; but the rest of the time? You wear leggings. And postpone any clothes with structure for as long as you can manage.

I think I’ve always known my train of thought and demeanor was a little different from others and I’ve always shied away from really explaining to people how my gears work and just tried to fit in but I’m at a point in my life where I just need to be me….unapologetically. Like seriously. I will do me, but for some reason always have the feeling that I need to explain myself to SOME people. When in actuality I owe no one an explanation on how and why I do the things that I do.

That article really tickled me and let me know that I’m good. I just march to my own drummer and I need anyone dealing with me to get with it or beat it. I’m getting there but in the meantime I got a good chuckle out of the fact that I think I am so complex when indeed I was broken down into under 20 bullet points written by a total internet stranger!

Mercury retrograde mess with any of y’all? Ever gone through a period where you felt the need to evaluate every aspect of your life? Are you driven and lazy at the same – – – – time?

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20 Comments

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    Law_Fal
    June 15, 2015 at 11:05 pm

    This pretty much sums up my entire existence. Mercury and all of its retrograding has been the bane of my existence. It’s been rough, but we have to keep on trucking. And comparison is truly the devil, smh!!!!!!
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    rochkirstin
    June 16, 2015 at 6:43 am

    Comparing one’s self to others has its good and bad effects. In a way, you can learn how to improve yourself and position your image to something better when you analyze your strengths and weaknesses against other people. However, this analogy also brings a bit of disappointment and consciousness that makes the self esteem down. Reading bullet points is always interesting.

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    Charlotte
    June 16, 2015 at 10:43 am

    Comparison is the devil, but we’ve all fallen victim to it. I loved reading your post and always enjoy your honesty Mimi. Now let’s talk about those bullet points and how the whole ” You’re either dressed to the nines or you haven’t changed your sweatpants in days. ” is how I’m feeling nowadays! Ugh, I need to get myself together ASAP.

    Great post, great read!

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    Kita
    June 16, 2015 at 12:33 pm

    I haven’t changed my sweatpants in years…let alone days. I think I have gotten so use to being at home that I took no time to look good and buy myself some nice things. I keep saying when I lose weight but that’s not happening so I need to suck it in and get to moving.
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    Victoria
    June 16, 2015 at 5:13 pm

    When I saw the title of this post I knew it was speaking to me. I get lazy and driven on the weekends when all of the kids are here. I know what I want/need to do on the weekends but when the kids are all here I just become super lazy and put off everything that isn’t done by Friday until Monday.
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    tammileetips
    June 16, 2015 at 10:13 pm

    I struggled for a while with comparing myself to others and it got me no were! I think finding a way to be you and true to yourself is the best way to be successful! That was a great article parts of it would describe me as well!
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    Nicole
    June 16, 2015 at 10:21 pm

    I am so glad to have read this post, today of all days!!! I was having a serious ‘all in my feelings’ moment this afternoon when I was comparing myself to a peer in my community and the success she has achieved in a short period of time. #2 on this list is me, to a T!! I am either working non-stop all day, or I don’t move from the couch for hours. I will be marching to the beat of my own drummer as well!
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    Joanne T Ferguson
    June 17, 2015 at 7:39 am

    I really enjoyed reading your blog post today! My opinion might be in the majority! As I never compare myself to anyone as to do so would lessen my confidence and esteem! Everyone is unique and everyone should celebrate what they truly are in my opinion!

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    Farrah
    June 17, 2015 at 9:59 am

    OMG this post was right on time! That changing of the sweatpants tho…..I find now that I work from home I have no desire to put on clothes or look presentable for the Hubbie when he gets in from work, it’s so bad that on the weekends if it involves ironing or getting myself together I’m a NO Go:( I have to get this together…when I do find myself in my feelings I just go in the room for some me time, but I can be the go getter and then lazy for days. I have got to get this together!! Thanks for the post and as always your honesty

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      Mimi
      June 17, 2015 at 5:27 pm

      I’m in your part of the states this weekend!

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        Farrah
        June 18, 2015 at 12:00 pm

        Seriously?!! I’m going up to Brooksville this weekend to spend time with my grandad for Fathers Day. Email me please, maybe we can try to hook up! I think I may be in Atlanta sometime before August:)

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    Tracy @ Ascending Butterfly
    June 17, 2015 at 11:45 pm

    I don’t know if it’s a matter of being ‘lazy and driven’ at the same time. It’s more like driven people burn the candle at both ends and then find themselves emotionally ‘numb’ until they recharge their batteries. Taking time away from work is vital to everyone’s mental health and emotional well-being.
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      Mimi
      June 22, 2015 at 11:43 pm

      I totally agree with your take. I always feel like I’m burning the candle at both ends. Maybe I need to try to balance things out a bit!

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    LaShawn
    June 18, 2015 at 12:05 am

    Girl that post was everything to me. I felt like someone finally explained why I am the way that I am. LOL. I am known for going on a cleaning spree then not giving a damn for weeks afterwards. and I’ve been in a funk for WEEKS! Nobody told me that Mercery was in retrograde. You mean I have a real excuse?
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    Erica @ The Crumby Cupcake
    June 18, 2015 at 10:04 am

    I am totally the same as you! I am a lazy girl by nature, but I have such desire to do things at the same time – it’s a constant battle trying to find a balance. It’s scary how this article totally spoke to me – I’m the girl with the mile-long to-do list who works a 12-hour day, and then comes home and does laundry, makes dinner (usually photographs it for a blog post, too), and cleans the kitchen one day, and then the following day I’m on the couch from morning to night. My motivation has a mind of it’s own.

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      Mimi
      June 22, 2015 at 11:42 pm

      Yes! My motivation as well. That’s why when it hits me I just try to get as much done as I can cause I know the time will come where it will be a struggle!

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    Mrs. Pancakes
    June 18, 2015 at 10:44 am

    Oh wow…what a profound question! this could be a good title for a book! i think i try to remain in my own bubble as much as possible and remember that all is good in my own world!

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    Tiffani G
    June 22, 2015 at 8:27 am

    This is so my life. Every Tuesday, like clockwork, I reevaluate every single area of my life and make lists of all the things I can work on next week.
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      Mimi
      June 22, 2015 at 11:41 pm

      I am always reevaluating. I suppose that can be seen as a good and a bad thing because I can be so hard on myself at times. Lists definitely keep me on task!

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    Angela
    June 26, 2015 at 1:38 pm

    Wow! Thanks for posting this. I was feeling the same way! I really needed to hear this one.

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