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Protect Your Peace

I’m resharing this post from last year. With the climate of our society I want to share a reminder that you don’t have to keep toxic people or relationships in your space. I don’t care what side you are on, this unrest can be unsettling and bothersome. We can’t control a lot of what is happening in the world but we can take care to find our peace when it seems buried in the unknown. Take care of yourself friends.

…and so that it is never misunderstood, while I respect people’s right to their opinions I stand proudly  in the light that shines on justice for ALL people.


As the slide to 40 has been greased up like the bottom of the sled Clark Griswald rode on in National Lampoon’s Christmas vacation I’m quite rapidly coming to an understanding that in a few short years all foolery and those that accompany it will not be welcomed into my space.

This morning after dropping the babies to school I came home and looked out the window and was in awe that nearly overnight the leaves on this tree turned a bright red and in the next moment I realized that in a few short days those beautiful leaves would shed to the ground to dry up and be blown away.


I ain’t really a deep person but in that moment I thought about my journey to my current place in life.

All of the tears and struggles and disagreements and letting go and holding on and fighting and pondering and reluctance and prayers and questions and no answers and……

I made it.

Through all of the bullsh*t, and loss and self searching I made it.

I found my peace. In finding it I quickly realized people will be skeptical, and they will be envious and they will find themselves wanting to be happy for you but they can’t.

Oh well.

Finding and protecting my peace was and is for me, always has been.  The journey was long but my stay in Peaceville will be forever more.

If you offer YOURSELF nothing else, please find your peaceful place, climb in it and guard it’s opening with all you have. Don’t be afraid to slam the door shut in folks face, let some folks in but don’t offer them the right to sit. We all have to deal with folks we would rather not let in our space but life says we have to, and then trust enough to open it and offer a seat for those that bless your life.

Like that tree we will all be vibrant and full of life and then we’ll dry up and blow away and then the rotating seasons of life will bring us back to life again.

Let grace and faith guide you when your peace is in jeopardy. Live and be free friends!

I ain’t deep tho.





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  • Reply
    Amanda Nicole
    November 3, 2016 at 4:03 pm

    Heyyy Mimi!

    Amen to this! It’s a process and apart of growth! Definitely learning this!

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      November 5, 2016 at 1:48 pm

      AMANDA!!!! Where you been? This is a lesson that takes awhile but once you get it……yaaaaaas!!!

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    Shon Townsley
    November 3, 2016 at 4:51 pm

    Ain’t it the Truth ! Nothing like a peace of mind and if I don’t get it I’ll give someone a piece of my mind 😝 At 40 I have zero tolerance for the foolery I’m in another space and when you arrive you will see very quickly what I’m experiencing. As you watch your kids grow and your life transition you begin to value everything that you love more. Some people don’t grow and mature and so they remain with unhappiness and drama. Thank God for the peace and I’ll leave you with this 😘
    “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”
    ‭‭John‬ ‭14:27‬ ‭NIV‬‬

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      November 5, 2016 at 1:47 pm

      I receive that scripture!

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    kita bryant
    November 3, 2016 at 10:35 pm

    Slam the door shut. I no longer keep people around me who aren’t feeding me with positive stuff. I can’t anymore. I need to grow and it’s okay to let people go. Love this!
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    Liah Anderson
    November 4, 2016 at 12:06 am

    So True Mimi, I’ve definitely had to shut many doors and it always worked out in my favor, when I was younger I used to think maybe I was paranoid about havimg intuitions about a persons spirit. But through the years I’ve learned to trust that measure discernment God has given me. Even some family unfortunately, if you’re not going to be apart of peace, I love you.. but scoot over there some. Lol! But seriously though. Sending you love, for this post! Thanks!

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      November 5, 2016 at 1:46 pm

      Yes! Family is not exempt. It is so hard to take those steps to shut the door but the peace over time makes it worth it.

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    November 4, 2016 at 2:38 am

    Reading this blog post felt, to my soul, like hearing a powerful sermon! Beautiful! Encouraging! Empowering! You ain’t deep though!

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      November 5, 2016 at 1:45 pm

      You really know I ain’t deep!

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    November 4, 2016 at 4:37 am

    I enjoyed reading this post. Life gets better as you learn not be a people pleaser or a people really chaser. Those who are meant to be will genuinely be happy for every joyous moment in your life! Keep living! 40 is the new 20!

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      November 5, 2016 at 1:44 pm

      I can’t wait to turn 40, everyone tells me that is when you fully come into yourself

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    November 4, 2016 at 8:11 am

    Deshondra and I just had an almost 3 hours convo about this last week. This is exactly the space that I’m in (writing a post on this too) and protecting my peace at all cost. Thanks for sharing! xo

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    November 4, 2016 at 9:37 am

    You better preach! I need to be reminded of this so this WORD was right on time. Let me know where to send my offering. LOL.
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      November 5, 2016 at 1:44 pm

      Keep being my friend 😘

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    November 4, 2016 at 7:38 pm

    You are not deep, but I love this post!

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      November 5, 2016 at 1:42 pm

      I’m really not!! Thanks for reading!

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    November 4, 2016 at 9:56 pm

    I love this! It’s so true!
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      November 5, 2016 at 1:42 pm

      It really is. When I finally got to this place I just wonder how I lived in chaos. It’s so freeing

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    November 7, 2016 at 5:03 pm

    Gosh this is so true!
    The older I got the more I realized how important my peace was. Now I will dismiss someone and their foolery with the quickness with no regrets.

    Now I understand why some older folks don’t have time for nonsense.
    Great post!

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    November 7, 2016 at 5:43 pm

    Lawd!!! I so needed to read this! Thank you

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    umair xan
    October 26, 2017 at 2:40 am

    Nice post, keep it up…

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