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AUDACIOUS – MY WORD FOR 2024

Happy New Year Friends!

Last year I’m not sure I had many “visible” accomplishments, however there were so many  wins on a personal/spiritual level that I’m going to keep them to myself, but in a nutshell I am so very proud of myself for exhibiting so much discipline last year in so many things. That discipline was a long time coming and once you do it once, you know you can do it again. And once you know you can do the hard things, the next step is to do the things you weren’t sure you could do. The AUDACITY to reach for what you once felt was unreachable. I’ll be 45 in exactly 2 months and one year from today I want to look back and say “she turned all the way up!”

 

 

I’ve also come to terms with the realization that when it comes to how my brain works, there are some challenges and that looks like if I’m to get where I’m going, I’m going to unapologetically need some help.  I’m so optimistic for so many good things next year, I hope this feels contagious and rubs off on you. None of us know what 2024 holds, but we can certainly go in with high expectations!

A few things to expect from my online presence in 2024:

  • I’ll be blogging and showing up more online…I’ve enlisted some help and automated some processes to keep me honest.
  • My newsletter on Substack will remain free, but I’ll be adding a paid version as well. The paid version will provide access to some exciting things I’m building out to include a “45 and Unfiltered” series where I’ll be sharing my unfiltered thoughts (I’m quite sure some of you know I have a bit of a different side that I don’t always show online, you’ll hear/see about it over there). I’ll also be doing a “45 Experiences” series where I’ll be crossing 45 things off my bucket list next year.  I’ll also be doing giveaways, exclusive video content to include book reviews, playlists and whatever else I think of. I’ll also be offering discounts to Unlikely Market. Subscribe to both options below, it will immediately subscribe you to the free version, you’ll need to opt in for the paid version which is $5/month

I’d love to have you join me on Substack, you can join the list here.

Here’s to showing up (for ourselves and others), living free, getting back up every time we mess up, being kind to ourselves, and finally being audacious to go after all the big things we’ve been putting off.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

 

Skincare routine products
Beauty

My (Simple) Skincare Routine

Consumerism is a real thing. Not that I didn’t know but as I watched an influencer the other day do a night routine with no less than seven products that she all linked  while telling someone when they asked that she absolutely needed each of those products every night I started to think am I not doing enough with my skincare.

That’s where they get you! You look at these things (and there’s nothing wrong with that) but subconsciously it starts to make you think that maybe you aren’t doing enough. At this big age, I quickly self corrected and reminded myself that my skincare routine, as rudimentary as it is works FOR ME.

A few have asked about my routine so I’m dishing, but don’t expect much as you continue to read. I feel like we don’t always get the background before we buy the things that we think will get us to “goals” status  so I’m going to be as transparent as much as I know how on what I do to care for my skin.

Eventually I would like to move to all “clean/non-toxic products”. I’ll keep you posted on that process as I continue my research, but for now here you go.

 

Skin Background

My skin is not sensitive, it borders on combination/dry and I’m not prone to acne.

Historically I have not had an issue with hyperpigmentation except around my mouth

I do not wear makeup very much. Every now and then I’ll throw on concealer, or a tinted moisturizer, but foundation, powder and all of the other things I do minimally, at best a few times a year. Lipstick always.

I do not use a retinol, or eye cream ( I probably should)

I rarely use a toner, it’s just a part of the routine that I often forget

I do not get any type of botox or any kind of medical grade enhancements. I don’t think there is anything wrong with them, it’s just not for me. I feel strongly about the gift of aging and what comes with that, I don’t feel like any of these things will ever enter my regimen.

My Proactive Rituals

For the past two years, EVERY SINGLE MONTH  I get a facial. I’ll repeat, I get a facial EVERY month. That in itself IS the game changer.

I drink at minimum 120 oz of water a day at least 5 days a week. Another game changer

I am consistent. I do a morning and night routine every day. I can count on my hands how many times in the past year I have not done at least one daily.

To even my skin tone, once or twice a week I put a small amount of self tanner for dark/deep tones on my face at night

I wear sunscreen EVERY day.

Products  (these are affiliate links, most from Amazon. I do earn a small commission if you purchase)

Historically I have had no loyalty to cleansers, again I am not acne prone or sensitive so whatever looked decent on the beauty aisle at Marshalls or TJ Maxx is what I rolled with. My aesthetician just told me to stick with a gel cleanser. I’m using one right now by Lacura, it is a little drying for the winter so I’ll be moving to a Boscia cleanser that I grabbed a few months ago, fell in love with, couldn’t find it again no matter how many Marshalls/TJ Maxx stores I visited. I am now going to break down and pay full price for it. It was that good.

The red lipstick combo that I wear doesn’t budge. ( Maybelline Matte Ink Dancer layered with Fenty Uncensored). I have to use a cleansing makeup balm to get it off cause otherwise it won’t come off! I use this Neutrogena Makeup Melting Cleansing Balm

The Boscia Purifying Gel cleanser I plan to add as an old faithful to my regimen.

This is the Advanced MD hyaluronic acid that I use morning and night (Another Marshalls beauty aisle find that I fell in love with)

I swear by this Rose Hip oil from the Ordinary.

I use this Naturium Dew-Glow moisturizer SPF 50 sunscreen. It doesn’t leave a white cast on my dark skin. I love the dewy glow that it leaves, this also doubles as my day time moisturizer.

I use this Ordinary BHA AHA 2% Peeling Solution  when my skin feels scaly and dry. I don’t use this on a schedule, only when I feel like my skin needs it. ( READ the instructions, people either love or hate this)

I use this Dermalogica Daily Microfoliant  twice weekly

I use this Jergens Natural Glow Healthy Complexion (deep tone) self tanner on my face once or twice a week…sometimes less frequently. It has tremendously evened my skin tone

I don’t really use toner, but I do like this Glycolic Toner from the Ordinary

And I smear good ol’ Vaseline.

Now that we have that out of the way, here’s my morning, night, and weekly routines.

Morning:

I do not wash my face with cleanser in the morning. I wet my washcloth (the rough white ones from Walmart, acts like a gentle exfoliant) with hot water and wash my face old school style.

I add a drop of the hyaluronic acid to my forehead and both cheeks. I pat in, let dry down then add my sunscreen.

Night:

I use my cleanser, pat my face dry

I add three drops total of the hyaluronic acid, one to my forehead and one on each cheek, pat in, let dry.

I add three drops of the rose hip oil in the same fashion as above

Smear on vaseline.

Weekly:

I exfoliate my skin twice a week on Sunday and Wednesday with the Dermalogica daily microfoliant. This paired with warm water feels so good to your skin

There are times when my skin feels like it needs a little extra, if it does I use the Ordinary exfoliant, but that is far and few between

That’s it!

 

Blue Ridge Scenic Railway
Living

Quick Change of Scenery – Blue Ridge, GA

The internet might have possibly, in some way subconciously convinced some of us that getaways need to be extravagant, but in my older age I am starting to see right through that narrative. This past weekend , my husband and I took a quick drive to Blue Ridge, GA which is  about 2 hours from our house.  According to all of the fall foliage maps this was to be the peak leaf weekend, but the early frost we got last week proved that a LIE. All of the leaves were brown, crispy, and off the trees, but we made the best of our day trip.

It was a beautiful mountain day, temp was in the mid-70s with a light breeze, the sun was shining, it was the perfect backdrop for us to peruse the little shops, and have lunch. It was giving  Hallmark harvest movie vibes.

We ate lunch at the General Ledger, the food and service was impeccable. I had the Chicken Cordon Bleu and highly recommend you order it if you ever find yourself in Blue Ridge  (no photo cause I was hungry). I had the best spiced pear sangria and we got an impromptu whiskey lesson which I could appreciate because I’m always looking for new brands to add to my bar.

The General Ledger Blue Ridge Menu

 

Rowan's Creek Bourbon Whiskey

Here’s a quick (and raggedy) snapshot of me. My husband isn’t the best at taking photos but he tries!

Welcome to Blue Ridge Bear

I wore my viral TikTok $20 Avia “dad sneakers” from Walmart. Talk about comfortable, and my favorite Old Navy bodysuit ( at the time of this post, it’s on sale for $15.47) under an old hoodie from Zara.

A quick change of scenery, a  moment to steal away alone or with your favorite person can absolutely do you some good. We’ve committed to taking more short trips around the state, stay tuned!

Fashion

My New Favorite Tuckernuck Dress

One thing to know about me, I’m going to get dressed.

I added a new dress to my collection from Tuckernuck and I’m absolutely smitten with it. It’s super lightweight, easy to throw on and go, it has pockets, and most importantly as a popped collar girl, the collar speaks to me. I will say it is sheer as I’m sure it is more or less meant to be a coverup but since I do what I want, I’m going to be wearing it as a dress a whole lot this season, also on the website the piping appeared more red, but it’s really more of a dark salmon pink.

Tuckernuck Pink Salt Lizzie Coverup