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Funding Our Kids Dreams

This post was sponsored, and paid for by SunTrust.  All opinions are my own.

You know you are totally and completely adulting when the conversation at brunch turns to how much money everyone is shelling out in extracurricular fees. From lessons, fees, leotards, instrument rentals, and travel expenses the tab for those of us with more than one child can be jaw dropping.

On a very rough estimate, I calculate  between ballet, competition dance, track, music lessons, intensives and instrument rental fees we shell out close to $5,500 dollars a year on extracurricular activities. As with anything, it’s hard to swallow or think about the big number when like clockwork, you click the pay link or scribble down the auto draft date in your planner. It’s easy to downplay it as just  $230 a month but over time those expenses start adding up. It’s not just extracurricular activities, it’s finding things to also do when you have the free time. If my kids want to go to a fine art gallery how can I say no to them?

It’s the spring that really hits us hard, especially after Christmas heading into competition and recital dance season. Outside of monthly tuition this season comes with competition dance and recital fees on top of travel expenses to dance competitions and track meets. New track shoes and shoes to go with dance costumes, tights and bun nets and the additional expenses just keep adding up. Staring an unexpected but not really unexpected $1000 in the eye has me really rethinking how we will budget in the future for these expenses…..or how we will engage the grandparents. We use a piece of software called Expensify to aid with this, as it allows us to keep track of all our household expenses, as well as any tax that may be due. You can read a review of Expensify on Trust Radius.

Youth activities are big business and come with healthy price tags especially for parents like us who believe in supporting the arts and exposing our children to activities that very well may pay for their college tuition in the future. According to a recent Suntrust survey, about 20% of parents in the U.S. spend more than $2,500 year with almost 40% spending more than $1,000 annually on sports, dance, arts and other extracurricular activities. We fall in the other 40% that spends over $2,500 a year.

FIVE THOUSAND DOLLARS a year y’all, and that’s being conservative.

While we do a great job at budgeting for our monthly bills to include monthly lesson fees, we really haven’t taken a close look at how to budget for spring, including the miscellaneous expenses related to their extracurricular activities.

After completing this Suntrust budget worksheet I have come to the realization that we need to be setting aside nearly $420 a month to even out our yearly extracurricular expenses. Of that amount $230 would cover each month’s expenses and we would need to tuck away the difference to avoid coming up with such a large lump sum at the beginning of the year. I’ll admit it sounds painful but the realization is it will get paid, and I would rather put aside an extra $200 a month than have to produce $1000 after Christmas.

Six in one hand, a half a dozen in the other.

I’m glad I took the time to plan out how much we are spending and how much those extras add up. With anything, breaking it down into manageable pieces makes it easier to budget and plan. Looking at the extra $200 we would need to put away a month has me thinking of ways we can encourage entrepreneurship in our children challenging each to take ownership of their activities by  attempting to raise $100 a month each, which mounts to just $25 a week, a little over $3 a day per child. A reasonably affordable option could be tennis lessons Boston. They are a fun way to engage your children in some healthy exercise. With lessons for child and adults there will be no shortage of fun for the whole family.

If you are going through the motions every month, paying for lessons and other expenses related to extracurricular activities I recommend you take out some time to look at some of the tips Suntrust offers on how to take the stress out of funding extracurricular activities. Carefully calculate those extra expenses to include gas money and take out dinner on those nights when you are just too tired to cook and you will be surprised at how much you are spending. Knowing is half the battle and by taking the time to understand how your money is being spent may help you devise a plan to off set some costs and properly save to support your child’s dreams.

 

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This post was sponsored, and paid for, by SunTrust. All opinions are my own.

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Weekend Rewind + Vlog | Dance Competition and the Usual

From the day Addison was born it was understood that she would don a leotard, tights and ballet shoes as soon as a dance school would take her, simply because my mother did it for me. I fondly remember the day when the time came to purchase her first leotard, tights, ballet and tap shoes. I vividly recall wishing my mother was there to experience my girl going off to dance for the first time , instead I clung to my own memories of her and I heading to the dance studio in Georgetown with the large glass window every Saturday.

When I signed Addison up for dance and watched her week after week I started to think at some point she had a natural talent that the others in her class didn’t seem to have, but seeing as how every mother thinks their child is awesome I pushed it aside. Now, I’m pretty confident my child is well on her way to becoming an amazing dancer.

Brown Girls Do Ballet

This weekend we traveled to her first dance competition of the season and as I watched her smile light up the stage and her facial expressions move the judges and the crowd it was evident she loves performing. As she hit every beat and step, at some point I felt like I wanted to cry. Being a mother is so hard, there are so many things to mess up and yet somehow when you see your child on stage exhibiting a talent they love, one in which you have poured money, time and dedication into, you feel like that is one thing  you absolutely got right. I introduced her to dance not knowing that she would fall in love with it and be great at it. I simply did it because my own mother had done it for me, however I never really loved it.

 

Addison and I are on a different trajectory, from the moment she wakes up she is dancing,  practicing her turns, and flips, often working my nerves because her jumps sound like the floor is caving in. I don’t have to push her, if anything I have to encourage her to allow her body to rest. Now comes the task of figuring out how to not just let her be average in this thing but seeking out vigorous Summer programs and auditions for her to attend outside of her dance school. Operation build a star is in full effect!

Outside of the dance competition we had a pretty normal weekend. You know cleaning, grocery shopping etc. My god brother’s birthday was on the 15th so we celebrated with cupcakes Saturday and had movie night. Thursday night, the Mr. and I fell off in the club with the millennials for his actual birthday celebration.

Let me tell you, partying during the week and having to wake up in the morning and do adult things like getting children off to school when you’ve had a drink or three is quite laborious. Nonetheless, we celebrated and had a great time.

Catch our full weekend on the vlog!

 

How was your weekend? Anything spectacular?

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On Life + Love

ON LIFE

I haven’t been by here in almost two weeks with good reason, much like a large portion of the United States we’ve been battling sickness off and on for the past few weeks. Thankfully, the flu hasn’t found it’s way around here *knocks on wood* but one child has had a pesky cold that went away and came back, then the other one caught it. Then there was a bout with a stomach virus and vomit. Don’t forget we thought she might have appendicitis and after a battery of tests found out that wasn’t the issue but another one of her labs came back a little elevated so heading to the Dr. tomorrow to see about that.It’s just been one thing after another.

Can a girl catch a break? Don’t answer that.

Through it all I’ve remained healthy and I have been taking extra doses of vitamins to keep it that way. I  keep saying if we can just make it to March as if March is some type of magical place where sickness doesn’t exist. Well, technically March is a pretty magical place seeing as how the 2nd day of “Magical March” marks the beginning of the last year of my 30s.

I still remember my 30th birthday like it was yesterday, and then there was 35 and now you mean to tell me nearly 40 years have passed.

 

Moving on.

MY evenings have been for reading, the one thing I vowed to do more of in the new year and am actually doing. I’ve read 4 books so far one of which was my very first audible book. Wasn’t sure if I would like listening to a book but I really enjoyed it and was educated that I can actually get audio books for free from my local library. I’m really looking forward to taking advantage of that.

I finished reading: The House on Mango Street, You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life, The Woman I Wanted to Be and Black Privilege: Opportunity Comes to Those Who Create It.

I’m currently listening to : The Mother of Black Hollywood and will be reading The Mothers and The Gilded Years respectively.

Outside of reading, I’ve been doing a little socializing and plotting and planning.

ON LOVE

So recently I’ve been organically sharing our nightly family shenanigans on Instagram stories and my DMs have been lit with people saying our family needs its own show. Primarily it’s my husband that gets the people in hysterics, he’s not that funny to me but I live with him.  I sure hope the right person/brand hears or sees that and offers us a family friendly/wholesome deal, in the meantime I’m going to do a better job at sharing our family on Youtube by bringing back our vlogs. If you want to see the foolery in real time be sure to check out my IG stories,  and follow along on Youtube.

I’ve been working on the gallery wall. Slowly collecting Dollar Tree frames and adding pictures of my family and loved ones to them. I have so many photos and the narrowing down process is taking some time.  Be on the look out for part II of the hallway makeover in the next week or so.

Thanks for hanging in there with me. More content coming soon, as long as everyone stays well and the creek “don’t” rise!

How’s life on your end? Are you ready for “Magical March” like me?

 

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7 Things to Know When Switching from a PC to a Mac

I pride myself on being fairly intelligent and technologically savvy, however the struggle that was switching from PC to Mac at times made me want to flip a table over and throw in the towel.  Switching from a PC to a Mac has to be atop the list of things that has tried every ounce of my patience. I’m sure it’s because I ignored people who said there was a learning curve, because surely I’m more tech savvy than them and I won’t have those problems….until I did.

Surprisingly, I’ve gotten quite a few questions when I post photos or IG stories with my computer in them about whether I prefer a Mac over a cheaper PC brand. I will say the learning curve exists and it’s very real. Nearly a year in, I still find myself googling how to do simple things like making a screenshot or hitting control + alt + del. Despite those hiccups as a visual person who loves pretty things, I don’t think I could ever go back to a desktop PC. If you are thinking about taking the leap, here is a quick reference guide of a few simple PC actions that are totally different on a Mac. If you are thinking about converting, bookmark this post. Trust me you’ll need it!

How To Control + Alt + Delete | On a PC it’s straightforward, simply press the CRTL, ALT and DEL keys together. On a Mac these buttons don’t exist. You’ll need to press Command + Option + ESC or right click the icon on your deck and force quit.

Where are the Apps | At the very bottom of the screen you will find something called the “deck” that holds all of your frequently used apps for easy access. You are able to specify which items you want stored there and you also have the option to minimize/hide it when working. If you opt to hide it, you simply place your mouse at the bottom of the screen and it will appear. For all of your apps that are not located on the deck you will need to use Launchpad to access them.

The Mouse Scroll is Backwards |  THIS. MESSED. ME . UP. FOR. WEEKS. You are able to change this in the System preferences. I didn’t find this out until I was used to the backwards way. Go figure.

How to Screenshot | There isn’t a PRNT SCRN key on the Mac. You will need to press Shift + Command + 3. If you are only wanting to screen shot a portion of the screen you press Shift + Command + 4. The pointer then changes to a crosshair, select the area you want to screenshot and release the mouse. The screenshot image will appear on the desktop.

How to Open a New Window | In the upper right hand corner of your screen on the browser there is a little + sign. Press that.

How to Backspace| There are two delete buttons but no backspace button. The larger delete key on the number row is the backspace. The smaller one off to the right of it is the actual delete key.

Converting a Pages document to Word or PDF or any other format | Pages is the Mac version of Word, except it’s not compatible on all fronts. You are able to type an item in pages and save it to a Word format. While in Pages, hover your mouse at the top of the screen select the File option, scroll to export and from the drop down select the format you wish to save it in.

If you’ve ever transitioned from a PC to a Mac share your frustrating moments so I don’t feel alone! If you are thinking of transitioning and have a question I didn’t cover, leave it in the comments and I will try to answer or provide a resource for you.