How was your weekend?
Mine was low key with nothing spectacular and blog worthy so I am going to pose a question to you that I have pondered a bit since having a conversation with a friend of mine.
I rarely, okay practically never bring *whispers* the S word around here but lets talk a bit today. Not about that in specific but kinda sort of. Stay with me.
Something was brought to my attention regarding the looking at and partaking of inappropriate images. Use your imagination if you will. The conversation stemmed around husbands or boyfriends taking a peek at other women’s lady parts and rear ends via lets say a magazine, website, “scrip club”, something of the like.
The question was posed to me regarding would I care if my Mr. decided to participate in visual fantasies.
If you’ve been around here long enough you probably know the answer and if you don’t know let me tell you. I. Don’t. Care. Not only do I not care but I don’t understand women who have a problem with this.
Now I understand from a mysogny, moral and religious standpoint why some people have issue with this and I get that but removing that from the equation why would someone find this a problem? I find most people don’t often list the aforementioned as their disdain with said behaviors, but rather don’t want their man looking at or lusting if you will at another woman.
I have been known to throw caution to the wind on things that send most people in a tail spin and go bonkers while others have their feet up. I’m wired a little different but I like to see what makes other people tick.
In MY opinion insecurities are what cause these things to become issues in relationships. Now I’m not talking about him being at a point where he needs help with an addiction, I’m just talking about a peek here, a once a year trip to the Gentleman’s Club with some homies that came in town, those every now and then moments.
I tend to think when women put limits on things like that, it leads to sneaky behavior. Let’s be honest you can tell someone all day what you don’t want them to do but if they really want to do it…guess what. I would rather compromise and agree to disagree than to have him going behind my back. It’s the sneaky behaviors that lead to questionable behavior in my thoughts. I find so many woman are closed up with their sexuality that maybe their man uses that as a coping mechanism to keep from cheating? Am I stretching?
What’s your take?