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| Busted!! |
Soooo…let me start by saying, prior to my son starting school, I gave myself a mind pep talk that I would never be the type to say, “not my child” before knowing the situation. Go figure last week I had to eat my words a couple of times..oh well we live and learn!
Four out of the five days last week my son either came home with a straight or frowny face on his daily progress report with a description such as, “someone hit him and he started to cry, please speak with him about crying” (ummm last time I checked that’s what children do), ” he hit another student” (okay, we don’t play that), “he was frustrated about not getting something to work, put it down and moved to another area” (huh?). By day four I’m livid and totally over these reports. The class has had 3 different teachers in the past month and you want me to talk to my child about crying, when no one has been in the class long enough to know all of the children’s names ( I’m heated as I’m typing as if you can’t tell).
Day four, teacher aide suggests I come in to speak with her regarding his behavior. What’s really going on? Last year he probably got a total of 4 yellow lights for the entire year and here I am looking at four issues in one week…I’m all ears. Friday, as I pull through the car pool line I am greeted by yet another new teacher. We exchange pleasantries, and I ask about his behavior. She replies, ” He is one of our star students” (that’s my boy!), I respond really? I was just about to park and come in to speak with you regarding his behavior from last week. Based on his progress reports Mrs.(name ommitted to protect the tattle tale) suggested I do so. Teacher responds, oh no, there is no need for that. Well he did hit a student last last week but she was bothering him for quite some time before he retaliated (so let me get this straight, you see what’s going on but you don’t diffuse the situation). Then it happened I locked eyes with the teacher aide, they say eyes are the window to the soul and I’ll leave it at that..okay, one more word..piercing!
Why aren’t these people on the same page? My child got reprimanded for behaviors that his real teacher (at least for this week) didn’t seem to think was a big deal. I am prayerful that I am able to edit my thoughts before I open my mouth at the meet and greet this evening when I ask about the protocol utilized in discerning who gets a happy face and who doesn’t and why they can’t get and keep a teacher in his classroom. Stability is important for students, so maybe the problem is them and not the children.
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| Look at that sweet face…He couldn’t, or could he?!!! |
Am I overreacting? When your child receives a bad report, do you listen to their side of the story, or do you automatically take the teacher’s word?
Saturday evening, I got the opportunity to leave the burbs and head to the city for a much needed girls night out. I joined one of my good friends for dinner, and the evening was going better than planned, that is until the waitress asked would we like a beverage from the bar. Before she could get the question out good, I blurted I’ll have a chocolate martini. I’m not a drinker, but certainly a martini snob, and having been pregnant and currently nursing it has been almost a year since I’ve had one. Yum…it was a just right mix, not too strong and extra chocolatey, exactly how I like them. It surely didn’t disappoint, until I got home.
So I knew when I drank it I would have to pump and pour out the milk, sounds easy right..WRONG!! As I poured that milk down the drain, I think a tear went with it. Anyone who has ever pumped and knocked the bottle over feels my pain. I guess I should’ve thought about the consequences before I enjoyed that decadent vodka and chocolate treat..oh well, I guess I have learned my lesson, and we’ll just say that $9.50 was an investment into my sanity for the upcoming week!!
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| She doesn’t seem too happy about me pouring out that milk either!! |
The highlight of my Tuesday occured when my 4 year old son decided to bite my 3 month olds knee. He actually bit her so hard that I could see impressions of his top and bottom teeth in her little fat knee, and had he bit any harder he would’ve broken her skin.
Once I cooled off I asked him why he felt the need to bite a baby. He couldn’t answer, so being a mother I am thinking to myself is he feeling left out or does he need more of my attention because clearly at almost 5 years old he knows better. I can’t relate to him because I am an only child so I have no idea what its like to have a new baby in town. I was telling one of my besties about the situation and she said she tried to smother her sister as a child..Oh boy, is sibling rivalry that serious!
I thought about it over the rest of the day and discovered that I have actually not been giving him as much attention since Addison has been here, and now that she is older I need to make more of an effort to include him in the event he is feeling left out.
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Anyone else dealt with this type of behavior with the birth of a new baby? I’m taking suggestions!