On October 14th my Lil Man turned 5 years old! When I found out I was pregnant with him the Mr. and I were engaged and in the process of planning this huge elaborate wedding, the deposit had already been put down on the reception hall, invitations were picked out and scheduled to be mailed even the floral arrangements were finalized.
Then one day it hit me. We were getting ready to spend well over $10,000 on a wedding and we didn’t own a home, we were in debt and had two RAGGEDY cars with a baby on the way. After going around and around trying to make it work, it became clear that the wedding was going to have to wait until we were in a better position financially. I managed to get the deposit back and my dad kept his word and blessed us with all of the money we were going to use for the wedding. As hard as it was to make the adult decision to put the wedding on hold, sensibility won out and we used the money to get out of debt and buy a home.
I thought I would be good just waiting until we were financially able to afford a wedding, but then it started to bother me that the baby would be born out of wedlock, so on September 2, 2005 we went to the courthouse and tied the knot. From that day forward our family has faced numerous challenges and at times I have wanted to walk away with just him and I but it wasn’t so easy so I stayed. I prayed and prayed and hoped things would get better and they did…eventually. My son was the “glue” that kept us together long enough to realize our potential as husband and wife, mother and father and most of all friends. There wasn’t a honeymoon period for us. We were quickly thrust into real life and at times it wasn’t pretty but we made it work.
See to him its just a birthday, but to us its symbolic of five long hard years of life’s lessons and growth. We have failed more of those lessons than we have passed but whose counting. He is the best thing that ever happened to us. We started and continued on this journey for him even when we both felt like throwing in the towel. Somewhere along the way we found ourselves, and a stride and we haven’t looked back. We are now blessed with a strong family unit and he was a huge motivating factor in why we stayed together when it would have been so much easier to walk away. We are forever grateful.
Happy Birthday to my sweet baby boy!!!
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LailaOctober 20, 2010 at 3:03 am
Happy Belated Birthday baby boy!! A beautiful story! And I'm so happy to hear about the growth and strength of your family.
Oh and my son would LOVE that cake,lol
mrstdjOctober 20, 2010 at 8:03 am
Happy birthday to the little man! And Congrats to you and hubby for making it through 5 long years. I pray that your marriage and family will continue to grow. Marriage is challenging, but oh so rewarding.
YUMMamaOctober 20, 2010 at 8:13 am
Awww….Hope that he enjoys his special day. I tell you relationships in general are hard work. I'm glad that you two stuck it out and decided not to throw in the towel. I see so many people who don't want to put in the work. It's just refreshing when I come across other like minded people who believe like I do. When road gets rough and hard navigate, I keep pushing forward knowing that a better path is just ahead.
Lisa FergusOctober 20, 2010 at 10:26 am
Happy Birthday to your little man! (he's too cute!)
Great post and a story that hits close to home. I found out I was pregnant and we planned a wedding with in 3 months! 4 months after my wedding my son was born. No honeymoon period for us either, but we have a better relationship because we fought through the tough times!
BTW, your guest blog is up today!!!
Tracita Linda (Tracey)October 20, 2010 at 12:02 pm
Oooo Spiderman! Thanks for sharing that testimony…sometimes people won't understand the practical side to things, they would rather get stuck on what's right and wrong in their eyes.
Happy 5th birthday to your son!