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The Great Doll Debate…Black vs. White

A few weeks ago I had a discussion with a good friend regarding the fact that she had seen a white woman in a very affluent part of Atlanta with her two girls who each happened to be carrying along black baby dolls.

In the conversation we mentioned how refreshing that was and how it shouldn’t have seemed odd to us in this day and age but unfortunately it does.

I’m sure you have heard about the Black Doll vs. White Doll experiment. If you’re not familiar here is a clip  on the project.

I never gave much thought to it, because I didn’t grow up dealing with these types of issues. My mother always told me although I was dark I was still beautiful and that ALL people are beautiful and not to let what others say about me, my hair, or my skin color bother me.

Fast forward to last week as I finished up getting a few things for the baby and found myself digging past many white dolls to find a black one while sucking my teeth when there were none to be found. I thought back to thoughts I’ve had in the past that black or white dolls don’t mold children’s attitudes about their heritage but being taught by their parents does. However, I am now in limbo about that. I can teach my children all I want that they are equal to others but if they don’t see that in action am I doing them an injustice? Now as I raise a little black girl, I am starting to think it does matter. I’m just not sure in what capacity, but at this moment I think it is important for Lil Mama to play with dolls that look like her. There will be a mix but the majority will be black.

What’s your take? If you are reading and are of another race, do you purchase black dolls for your children? Or does it even matter? Just curious on your thoughts.

Family NaBloPoMo Parenting

I’m Not Here For This….

Before I get started I forgot that I never did the last installment of my blog awards recognition. The last person that awarded me an award was Laila over at Only Laila. I love Laila she is no nonsense and tells it like it is. Today I was given an award from Legally Chocolat over at Life after the Verdict. She’s an attorney. Doctors and attorneys are those professions that I look at in awe. You have to love folks who have the dedication to such things. Head over and check these ladies out if you aren’t already.

Now..I’m not here for anything below. Why? This situation hits a little close  to home with the whole blended family thing and my little corner of the interwebs is a little more popular these days and being that its Christmas and I’m on my Kris Kringle I’m keeping my opinions to myself. Ya feel me?

So, I get an email from a reader asking my opinion on the follow situation. I told her I would bring it over here for her to read the responses for herself.

Wanna hear it? Here it go.

Well her significant other has a child from a previous relationship. The man is looking to purchase a pretty costly electronic device for the child for Christmas. Cause you’re nosy and want to know what it is…It has an apple on it. Moving on.

She is not agreeing to such because she thinks the device is more suited for an adult and thinks that the child’s mother will gain more benefit from the gift than the child will. The SO’s argument is it’s his child and he wants to buy it and doesn’t care if the mother uses it and thinks she is being messy and that her concerns are not relevant. Welp, there you have it.

Your thoughts? *vanishes*

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Lil Man NaBloPoMo Parenting

Allowance?

We have a problem. My son is at that stage where when I tell him to do something there has to be a monetary exchange discussion. No sir.

I’ve spoken on this before regarding a lot of us being able to provide things for our children that we didn’t have and them having a sense of entitlement. Since when do I need to pay you to clean your room, but the part that is rattling my nerves is the shade he throws when I inform him there will be no payment made for things that should be done.

So the Mr. thinks an allowance should be given. Sort of a real life show that when you work you earn money that you need to save…blah, blah, blah. I believe in allowance, I do. But I’m just not sure for what. I don’t think you should be paid for doing chores or doing well in school.

Just being curious, I asked him what would he buy with his allowance…THIS

Except he called it an i Computer

Poor thing. How much work would that entail.

What’s your take. Did you receive an allowance as a child? Do you pay out an allowance? If so, how much and for what?

 

 

Lil Man Me NaBloPoMo Parenting

To Bare or Not To Bare

I’ll cut to the chase. I’m a nudist. I don’t like clothes or shoes. Now that I put that out there.

My son is now six and my husband thinks its high time I put some clothes on around the house. Disclaimer: I don’t do it when others are around. Just thought I would put that out there.

I do agree that I need to cover up but I don’t think there is anything wrong with the human body. Yet I would freak out if Lil Mama saw the Mr. bucked naked * that was in my Bernie Mac voice* Not familiar? here you go. FYI there is cursing and profanity in this clip. You have been warned! You can stop it after 0:16 or watch the whole thing for some flash back giggles. I digress.

 

My mom and aunts walked nude around me so its second nature but I do have to remember that I have a son and it just might not be the best thing. I have started to cover up, but when he streaked across the house while my niece was here I think I may be a day late with this epiphany. I’m just curious. What’s your take on nudity around your child(ren)?