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Protect Your Peace

I’m resharing this post from last year. With the climate of our society I want to share a reminder that you don’t have to keep toxic people or relationships in your space. I don’t care what side you are on, this unrest can be unsettling and bothersome. We can’t control a lot of what is happening in the world but we can take care to find our peace when it seems buried in the unknown. Take care of yourself friends.

…and so that it is never misunderstood, while I respect people’s right to their opinions I stand proudly  in the light that shines on justice for ALL people.


As the slide to 40 has been greased up like the bottom of the sled Clark Griswald rode on in National Lampoon’s Christmas vacation I’m quite rapidly coming to an understanding that in a few short years all foolery and those that accompany it will not be welcomed into my space.

This morning after dropping the babies to school I came home and looked out the window and was in awe that nearly overnight the leaves on this tree turned a bright red and in the next moment I realized that in a few short days those beautiful leaves would shed to the ground to dry up and be blown away.


I ain’t really a deep person but in that moment I thought about my journey to my current place in life.

All of the tears and struggles and disagreements and letting go and holding on and fighting and pondering and reluctance and prayers and questions and no answers and……

I made it.

Through all of the bullsh*t, and loss and self searching I made it.

I found my peace. In finding it I quickly realized people will be skeptical, and they will be envious and they will find themselves wanting to be happy for you but they can’t.

Oh well.

Finding and protecting my peace was and is for me, always has been.  The journey was long but my stay in Peaceville will be forever more.

If you offer YOURSELF nothing else, please find your peaceful place, climb in it and guard it’s opening with all you have. Don’t be afraid to slam the door shut in folks face, let some folks in but don’t offer them the right to sit. We all have to deal with folks we would rather not let in our space but life says we have to, and then trust enough to open it and offer a seat for those that bless your life.

Like that tree we will all be vibrant and full of life and then we’ll dry up and blow away and then the rotating seasons of life will bring us back to life again.

Let grace and faith guide you when your peace is in jeopardy. Live and be free friends!

I ain’t deep tho.





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  1. Ain’t it the Truth ! Nothing like a peace of mind and if I don’t get it I’ll give someone a piece of my mind 😝 At 40 I have zero tolerance for the foolery I’m in another space and when you arrive you will see very quickly what I’m experiencing. As you watch your kids grow and your life transition you begin to value everything that you love more. Some people don’t grow and mature and so they remain with unhappiness and drama. Thank God for the peace and I’ll leave you with this 😘
    “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”
    ‭‭John‬ ‭14:27‬ ‭NIV‬‬

  2. So True Mimi, I’ve definitely had to shut many doors and it always worked out in my favor, when I was younger I used to think maybe I was paranoid about havimg intuitions about a persons spirit. But through the years I’ve learned to trust that measure discernment God has given me. Even some family unfortunately, if you’re not going to be apart of peace, I love you.. but scoot over there some. Lol! But seriously though. Sending you love, for this post! Thanks!

  3. I enjoyed reading this post. Life gets better as you learn not be a people pleaser or a people really chaser. Those who are meant to be will genuinely be happy for every joyous moment in your life! Keep living! 40 is the new 20!

  4. Deshondra and I just had an almost 3 hours convo about this last week. This is exactly the space that I’m in (writing a post on this too) and protecting my peace at all cost. Thanks for sharing! xo

  5. Gosh this is so true!
    The older I got the more I realized how important my peace was. Now I will dismiss someone and their foolery with the quickness with no regrets.

    Now I understand why some older folks don’t have time for nonsense.
    Great post!

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