{My Black is Beautiful} No Apologies or Explanations Shall Be Given

July 1, 2014



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I hear my own drummer, my body is often in a room while my mind is on the other side of town, my picnics are often short a sandwich.

This is me, Mimi. Take it or leave it is what it shall be.

My mind is always in perpetual motion. While someone is talking to me my mind may be on what’s for dinner or my grocery list. I have found myself struggling with simple tasks trying to reason and go against my nature in completing things to make them acceptable to others. I’ve always been aware that I have my own way of doing things that perplexes others, and in failed gestures to make others more comfortable with MY actions I adjusted them.

Those days are gone. That ship has sailed, it has approached the horizon and is no longer visible. Squint if you must, it’s not there.

The past few years, since my mother’s death has been a wake up call for me. We are given our lives to live and be true to ourselves. In doing so it is never okay to hurt others intentionally, but it’s okay to understand that this may be the perceived outcome. We all have our different perceptions of reality and what was unintentional may be seen as the opposite in another set of eyes. Making peace of that and moving on is life.


This epiphany has cost me some sleep, some rejection and severed friendships and I am fine with that. Growing weary of people who have always had their best interest at heart and yours second, is the truest of wake up calls and the greatest reality show written. Truth be told we should all have our best interests in the forefront, it is this realization that has allowed me to forgive others for taking advantage of me as well as forgive myself for allowing them.

To finally reach a place of true self acceptance, that offers no apologies or explanations is akin to angels singing, or spinning in the middle of the street with sun rays beaming down only on you. As the saying goes “Freedom isn’t free” and its not. From the battlefields our servicemen fight on to the battles in our own mind freedom comes at a cost and we have to be willing to pay the price.

I’ve put down a hefty down payment and I’m paying the rest as I go. It’s been worth every dime. I suggest you start throwing your own coins toward freeing yourself if you haven’t already!

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Have you accepted yourself or are you still offering explanations and apologies? If so, why?

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  • Reply
    July 1, 2014 at 9:16 pm

    Love this post!! I can say at times I have accepted myself but I still stuggle time to time with acceptance of others and doubts and fears of what they may think of my words or actions. Thanks for this post.

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    Reginia {}
    July 2, 2014 at 12:02 am

    This is a very dear and well received post.

    Encouraging women to identify their strengths and accepting them is pivotal to self acceptance.

    You’re right, NO apologies and No explanations.

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    Nonya Afiya
    July 15, 2014 at 4:11 pm

    Love this post!! Thoughts like this run through my mind all the time!! I’ve accepted myself! And love it!!

    No apologies!! No explainations!! L

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      July 16, 2014 at 9:29 am

      That’s it!!

  • Reply
    July 16, 2014 at 8:35 am

    there are twwo races
    good people and bad people

  • Reply
    July 16, 2014 at 11:16 am

    Accept it!! That image of power in the mirror?.. that you boo… GRASP IT!!!

    • Reply
      July 16, 2014 at 1:40 pm

      I wish it wasn’t so hard to get to this place. But it is totally worth it.

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    Joan G
    July 16, 2014 at 12:29 pm

    I love your message. Thanks for confirming what many of us eventually come to realize.

    • Reply
      July 16, 2014 at 1:41 pm

      Eventually is the million dollar word. It takes so long but is so rewarding when you finally make it!

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    Linda B
    July 17, 2014 at 9:40 am

    Fantastic! Keep the encouragement coming. No more needs to be said.

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    July 17, 2014 at 11:11 am

    Truer words of widom have NEVER been spoken. Learning to live your life is the beginning of Freedom!

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