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As this space constantly evolves into a place that is a collection of my thoughts and deeds, and likes and rants and raves I often can never get close to a computer when I have those moments when I find myself deep in the abyss that is my feels. Then by the time I get there the passion behind the lesson is gone and I’m left only to post a DIY or recipe.

There are the emails about how amazing it must be to get out and do and be free with a supportive husband….and it is. I apologize in some sort of fashion if this space sends the message that my life is always on point and void of the true reality that at times nothing else will suffice in describing those hard moments other than dropping the F bomb with an -ed  followed by up.

If you’ve frequented this space and traveled this journey with me for the past 4.5 years you know. The past year or so things have all fallen into place with our necessities. House…check. New car…check. Best schools…check.

Today I had an innocent enough conversation with my husband and when it was all said and done I was left with the harsh reality that a long time ago in the pursuit of this amazing family of mine, I gave up one of my biggest dreams, and for the first time I opened my mouth and told him. I let it go along time ago, but never felt the need to verbally put it into the universe until today.

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Now that the elephant in the room is out there, let’s talk about the burden that most women carry  that is hiding behind how awesome we are to other people, and how we gladly  place the needs and cares of our family and others close to us at the top of the totem pole while our legs  and arms turn to jello as we attempt to hoist our own body weight to the same level. Busying ourselves to the point that we make light of the fact that somewhere lost in the shuffle is a single person…

Me. You. Us.

Opening my mouth to verbally express what has taken up space in my mental non verbal thoughts was eye opening. It’s like I actually had the audacity to say I put you before me and now I am just taking the baby steps that should be full on strides by now….but you know what they say about the journey……

It’s all good.

There is never a need to blame someone else for our missteps because those are decisions we made. I see it like this, if you can own and be truthful about those missteps there is nothing anyone can hold over your head. Tell your story and live your truth.

The good thing is God is one of second, third and a thousand chances so while it may not be as easy as it would’ve been the good thing is it isn’t impossible.

MY first step is starting with me.

Why is it so hard to admit that we’ve put others before ourselves?!

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12 Comments

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    Mrs. Pancakes
    March 24, 2015 at 12:32 pm

    What a profound question. I think the biggest part of that question is the answer! Glad you are asking it and finding strength in your answer! Good luck Mimi! And thank goodness for supportive husbands!
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    Christina Jones
    March 24, 2015 at 1:59 pm

    I can’t do anything but wave a church fan for this one Mimi.

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    Tia
    March 24, 2015 at 3:12 pm

    Girl, yes. I recognize this in myself. The thing is, now that I have made the effort to make myself more of a priority I actually feel a little guilty. Good luck to you on your journey.
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    Patrice
    March 24, 2015 at 3:43 pm

    Girl, you are preaching!

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    Tiffiany
    March 24, 2015 at 8:06 pm

    Girl, you said a mouthful then!
    It’s so hard to admit when we put others before ourselves because we are conditioned to think that’s what “good” wives & mothers do. I have to remind myself it is not bad to want something for myself outside of the home and life I’ve created with my family. I realized this year that I’ve become a writer who doesn’t write. No one asked me to make the sacrifice. I did it and now I’m correcting it.

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    Law_Fal
    March 25, 2015 at 12:15 am

    I agree with the ladies above! Grabs church fan, shouts and falls OUT!
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    Bunnie
    March 25, 2015 at 9:07 am

    Yes. You are definitely speaking my language. Currently hashing all that out with my Therapist. And reading Make It Happen (Lara Casey) which has been a great help in giving me the words and to take the leap of FAITH I have been afraid to even discuss before now. I am an awesome mom. AND MORE. And you are too.
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    Lashawn
    March 25, 2015 at 10:36 am

    YASSSSS you better preach girl. I feel so guilty when I do things for myself. When I want to plan something just for me but feel like it would be selfish . Something as simple as leaving on a Saturday to get a pedicure turns into a “should I?” SMH. How did I get here??
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    Krissy
    March 25, 2015 at 11:18 am

    I read the blogs of my married blog buddies like you and I get the sense that everything is grand and wonderful, then there are a few like Christina and LaShawn who have let us into their lives and we get to see that it’s not always grand and wonderful and that and THIS i appreciate immensely. Thank you for this.
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    Baby Teems
    March 25, 2015 at 5:10 pm

    Funny, I was going to write something similar this week. Just don’t know how to say it just yet. I kind of beat myself up about not putting myself first sooner….when I had more freedom and opportunity.
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    robincharmagne
    March 25, 2015 at 7:35 pm

    Thank you for being so open and honest, which can be hard especially out in this blogosphere. Take some time for yourself and enjoy every second of it!
    http://www.robincharmagne.com/blog
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    Charlotte
    March 26, 2015 at 10:01 pm

    love your honesty in this post Mimi, and I think you speak for many… at least for me. love to you xoxo
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