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On March 2nd, I turned the BIG 4-0. For a whole year leading up to my 40th birthday, I was hype. I kept telling folks about my impending entrance into the 40/40 club… then a few days before I was to pull out my ID I got all in my feels.

All. In. My. Feels.

It hit me like a brick. I don’t think it was so much turning 40, as it was the realization that I was closing out a decade of my life where so much happened.

From 30 to 40, I had a baby, we moved into our forever home, I moved past the debilitating grief of losing my mother, and most importantly I found JOY! All of the major events I had dreamed and prayed about happened in the decade I was leaving behind and it got a whole lot emotional.

Tears were shed, then I turned up like only I can. If you know nothing about me, know that I’m down for a good time. I walked into no f*cks 40 free as a bird. I’ve struggled with self-love, jealousy, and, getting rid of other folks perceptions and thoughts of me. Overcoming all of that gives you the type of joy that no one can take away. After I shed those tears I was ready to walk into the next decade like a boss.

A 40-year old boss at that.

I didn’t want any part in planning the festivities, so I just showed up where they told me.

Friday started at Little Trouble in Midtown. Then it got really real and moved to the club where I brought in my actual birthday. There was video, sorry if you missed it. There is a reason Instagram Stories self-destruct after 24-hours.

Saturday, the day ones put together a nice little slumber party at a suite downtown. We stayed in, drank, had girl talk, and found ourselves down to the lobby for shots, a round of Black Card Revoked and sushi. It was perfect.

I love my friends. I try my best to make time for them because they mean so much to me. These were the ones that have been there since college. They know the WHOLE story, the ones that act and ask questions later.

Sunday, we slept in, checked out, and headed to Murphy’s in Va. Highlands. Murphy’s hands down is my favorite brunch spot.

I am now 40. I kind of feel like I have no more big milestones to look forward to, but considering how fast 40 rolled up, I’ll be 50 in like two years!

Thank you to everyone that sent me birthday wishes, I received them. They were much appreciated.

I’ve documented many birthdays here if you want to go down memory lane… let’s go. Here is 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37, 38, and 39!

I was compensated for this post. All opinions are mine.

When Addison insisted on watching Brave 2,894,812 times I just hit play again, again, and again figuring it was some sort of karma for making my father watch the Little Mermaid with me an equal amount of time many days back in the 80s/90s.

Let me tell you, you know you’ve watched a movie a million times if you are 40 and can still quote it word for word. THIRTY years ago The Little Mermaid hit big screens and in honor of this milestone the movie is being released on 4K Ultra HD and BLU-RAY for the first time.

Nothing says parenting like doing things with your child that you did as a kid. Addison and I spent an evening in the theater singing along with the movie. I’m surprised she knew the songs as well as she did. I’m telling you, there will be many nights watching this classic with my girl.

Things tend to get better with time and that includes this new and improved version of The Little Mermaid.

This release on BLU-RAY and Digital includes:

• Sing-Along Mode – Sing along to the movie in this sing-along version of the film.

• “What I Want From You…Is YOUR VOICE” – Enter the recording studio and get an inside look at the cast of “The Little Mermaid” in their original recording sessions.

• Stories From Walt’s Office – Gadgets & Gizmos – Like Ariel, Walt Disney was a collector of many different things from miniatures to early mechanical characters that inspired the invention of audio-animatronics. We take a look at some the collections that Walt kept in his office in the third episode of this series.

• #TreasuresUntold – Join Ruby Rose Turner and Olivia Sanabia from the Disney Channel Original Series “Coop and Cami Ask the World” as they take a deep dive to explore some hidden treasures and fun facts about Disney’s “The Little Mermaid.” 

• DCapella “Part of Your World” Music Video

• Classic Bonus Features – revisit four exciting bonus features from previous releases including:
  • Deleted Character: Harold The Merman
  • Under The Scene: The Art Of Live Action Reference
  • Howard’s Lecture
  • Audio Commentary With Ron Clements, John Musker and Alan Menken

DIGITAL EXCLUSIVES

• “Part of Your World” – A 30-Year Retrospective – Songwriter Alan Menken and Jodi Benson, the acting and singing voice of Ariel, sing the epitome of Disney “I Want” songs “Part of Your World” and discuss its impact since it was first heard 30 years ago.

I thoroughly enjoy spending time with Addison, she’s so full of joy. I’m looking forward to many more Little Mermaid movie nights with her!

What was your favorite movie as a child?

Let me just say, thirteen years is a long time, and during that time life happens. You grow and change. Your spouse grows and changes and somehow you are charged with keeping it together while growing separately. I’m convinced personal growth is a necessary evil, even in marriage.

My online life has never been one about portraying perfection, it is what it is. Not even in the cliche mention of not being perfect…while still portraying perfect is an image I hope my online presence doesn’t portray. I want to feel touchable, reachable, like I can be your friend in your head so my musings on what marriage has taught me over the years is going to be real.

Ready? Let’s go.

PATIENCE. Pretty sure at this point I have the patience of a saint. I’ve always been fairly patient but I’ve learned to let things slide that aren’t worth my energy. HOWEVER, I will go off if I am continuously tried with the same thing.

PICK YOUR BATTLES. Listen. Everything doesn’t warrant your attention or energy. If it doesn’t ignore it. That goes for anything in life. If you are passionate about it, stand behind your conviction but really and truly sometimes it’s worth it to be the period in the discussion. A simple okay when someone expects you to carry on is the ultimate level of shade.

BE MINDFUL OF EACH OTHER’S UPBRINGING WHEN SETTING EXPECTATIONS. At one point in our marriage, I was needing something from my husband that he just didn’t seem to get, and vice versa. We were missing each other like two ships in the night, until it dawned on me that he never had a strong father figure. He was doing the best he know how, while I grew up with a father that is the poster child for being a great husband and father. I realize now it’s hard to expect someone to give you something they have never seen. The best thing we have ever done is talk through this, and in doing so we’ve learned to communicate what we need instead of expecting the other person to know.

FORGIVENESS. Self explanatory. Hard at times? Yes. Necessary? Yes. Ever heard the saying that “Forgiveness is for you, not the other person?” This is so true. Holding grudges is not productive and can tear a marriage apart. When we let ill feelings compound it creates a mountain that is hard to climb and get over.

LEARN THEIR LOVE LANGUAGE. I wasn’t a firm believer in this until we took the test and were total opposites. It was then that some missing pieces were finally put in place for me… and that was just a few months ago.

BE KIND…EVEN WHEN YOU DON’T FEEL LIKE IT. Kill ’em with kindness they said. Let them be mad by themselves… or if you are the one mad, you can be mad by yourself. Let’s forgive and move on for reasonable circumstances. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes the ugly has to come out, but save the alter ego for extreme circumstances.

IF IT NEEDS TO BE DONE, JUST DO IT. We’ve moved away from gender roles and it has made everything so much better. This to me is the real definition of teamwork.

LAUGH TOGETHER. We do this well. We are very good friends, and let me tell you it is very important to be friends with your spouse. There will be times when love isn’t enough, it’s then that the friendship kicks in to get you through.

ADDRESS TENSION. Somebody has an attitude for seemingly no reason? Don’t feed into it, ask what the problem is. They may assume you know and vice versa. We’re not relying on mindreading these days, please use your words.

LOVE EACH OTHER UNCONDITIONALLY. My husband and I aren’t perfect, we are about as far apart on the spectrum as possible, but our love for one another is very strong, and very real. Yes, he gets on my nerves, yes there have been times I’ve wanted to throw in the towel but the love we have has stood the test of time…well 13 years.

I’m joining a couple of other bloggers for a fun blog hop. We’re all sharing our love stories and hosting a fun giveaway on Instagram for a $100 gift card to Ruth Chris Steakhouse. For the next blog on the hop, head over to Decorating Cents to read her love story. Then slide over to Instagram to enter to win the gift card!