In being more intentional about keeping clutter to a minimum, today when I saw Addi attempt to squash one more doll into an already overflowing basket I told her to dump the whole thing out and decide which toys she wanted to give away to needy children and which ones she wanted to keep.
As I supervised her, I looked at her hair and was like OMG!
Not only have I had a love hate relationship with her tresses but she has had some issues adjusting as well. Few people understood my concern when I started being more intentional in the way I spoke to her about her hair and making myself more diligent in figuring out how to work with it. I refused to straighten it until I knew she was comfortable with her natural hair, especially going to school in an environment where she is the minority.
I remember being the only black girl in my class and when I told my mother I wanted my hair straight like the white girls she pressed it, and continued to press it until I can’t ever remember seeing my hair in it’s natural state.
Well my friends it is a new day and I need Addi’s norm to be a puffy fro and I see to it that she has learned to love and embrace her hair. I scold her brother even when he makes jokes about her hair not just for her sake but for all of the women he will come across with natural hair.
I’m proud of how far I’ve come in making sure my girl has a head full of healthy hair that she loves. Now if I could just get my hair to look like hers!!
SonyaNovember 27, 2015 at 11:04 pm
Someone asked me a few months ago if I ever straighten my daughter’s hair. Until that moment I had never even thought about straightening my daughter’s hair (she is only 3). I love her natural hair just the way it is and I have no plans of straightening it in the future. I want her to love her natural hair too.
krissyNovember 28, 2015 at 12:14 pm
Yep. Their natural hair is beautiful. Jas is my hair crush. I envy it.
WhitneyNovember 28, 2015 at 9:32 pm
Her hair is so dope! My daughter is still an infant, but I have zero plans of putting chemical in it. I’ve been natural for 7 years for me and will continue to do so for her. #crowns
CarissaNovember 30, 2015 at 9:59 am
I love my natural curls and recently I learned that straightening it gave me heat damage. I was good for a while but now I am trying to get it back…I know one thing I will NEVER take it for granted again!!! I thought because it was healthy I could go back and forth from straight to curly often but its just not in the cards for me, so I worked hard to get it where it was, now I have to work just as hard to get it back!!! Emma wont have straight hair for a LONG TIME…honestly, its soft and curly so I know for a fact that she can’t handle heat at all!!!
AmandaNovember 30, 2015 at 11:44 am
Addi’s hair is beautiful!!
My girls and I all have natural hair and they have learned through watching me to embrace and love their strands. We all have different textures and I always tell them that it’s better to have healthy hair than long hair. I’ve never straighten the three little girls and the older girl has only had hers done once or twice. It’s so important to teach our kiddos to embrace what God has given them. When we need a break I put in yarn braids or marley twists.
LashawnDecember 1, 2015 at 7:46 pm
Her hair is beautiful! I have major hair envy!
DreaDecember 3, 2015 at 1:56 am
Addi’s hair is beautiful!