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An Unlikely Love Story

*cue Mary J. Blige and Method Man “All I Need and loop in your head as many times as necessary to get through this post*

Once upon a time in June of 1998 I met a guy named A.D. Initially I was not impressed, he grew up very different from me and being as shallow minded as I was at the time I wanted nothing to do with a freshman college student who didn’t own a car, or who grew up in the mean streets of Miami, Fl. At the urging of a mutual friend of ours that actually went to high school with him, I agreed to ONE conversation. As cliche as it sounds the rest was history!

We dated from June 1998 to August of 1999. We decided to go our separate ways and rekindled our relationship in December of 2002. Amazingly during that time I never saw him more than two times and we lived in a very small town but people always said he would ask about me. We agreed to give it another shot prior to my graduating from college and moving from Tallahassee to Charlotte.

He graduated in 2003 and joined me in Charlotte

We lived in Charlotte for a year and a half before moving to Atlanta. About a year after moving here we got engaged..Woot Woot!!

Then a week later we discovered I was pregnant…After all those years, our luck ran out!

Shortly before Lil Man was born we got married at the courthouse.

You see my boy..Peace up, A town down

We had our own little family

Shortly after our trip to Disney in Summer 2009, We decided it was time to add to the roster

All of this because these two people fell in love….

Moral of the story is, if you haven’t found your “love” yet be patient and overlook the material things. If I had stayed hung up on the fact that he didn’t have a car and grew up in the projects this post would have never been!

Happy Valentines Day!

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Family• Hair• Lil Mama• Lil Man• Week in the Life Of

A Week in the Life Of….

This will more than likely become a weekly feature where I outline all of the normal, crazy and just down right foolishness that I may encounter during the week. Please note: MY week runs from Sunday to Thursday. On Fridays I do nothing…other than change diapers, and pick up from school. With that being said….

Last weekend we travelled to Tallahassee for my stepdaughter’s birthday party. Glad to say everything went well. Who said blended families can’t work out…although at times our “situation” seems more like a pureed family. Geesh, there has to be a cut off..I’ll give deets sometime next week.

I got a mani, pedi AND my eyebrows waxed..that’s EPIC

My son’s teacher sent home a note stating that the children MUST address their valentines. I’m thinking she didn’t give thought to the fact that preschoolers write very slow and and with 20 envelopes to address that could become a day long task. We’re starting on Saturday, we should be done by Thursday.

Tuesday, I straight up needed a do over. But that’s not how it works. What I don’t do is wallow in pity…and that’s all I’mma say about that.

Wednesday, I received a PSP from Klout. Woot Woot, I got Klout! I’m moving up in the blogging world.

After practicing piano everyday last week with my son ( something that I NEVER do) he got to lessons today and played like he had never seen the music before. *sigh* Not to mention she gave him his recital music. OMG..I think I am going to have to take lessons just to practice that piece of Mozart with him.

Addison : Sleep :: Oil : Water….testing your SAT skills! In a nutshell Addison is back to not sleeping. She is teething again.

Adrian has somehow managed to put a hole in FIVE pair of jeans..FIVE. Some of the jeans have holes in both knees. I hate to send him to school with holey jeans but we dont’ have it like that. Headed to Walmart this weekend for some knee patches.

HOLEY MOLEY

I have an astronomical amount of hair and getting it done professionally is at least $80..nope, no funds for that so I have tried many products that didn’t work but I came across Shea Moisture’s Curl Enhancing Smoothie. OMG, this stuff worked wonders on my hair. I picked it up from Target for $9.99 and I am hooked. All of the below pics were taken after my hair has been like this for a week…be forewarned the Mr. and I were being playing photog and model, nevermind us!

twisted nightly

I take down the twists and VOILA

Say hey to Lil Man..he wanted to get in on the fun!

How has your week treated you?!!

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Family• Life

Can’t Leave Well Enough Alone

Sunday we went to church and the sermon spoke on the premise that once people are delivered from certain events in their lives they often forget the specifics of whatever it was that held them captive in the first place. This specific sermon resonated with me in a major way. Lately, I have found myself in a constant sense of retrospective thinking, while not being able to recall those things which I so desperately want to relive. Why? I don’t know.

I often find myself thinking back to the days when my husband and I were an unhappily married young couple struggling financially to take care of an infant and at the time my ailing mother. Nothing in our life was right, on a daily basis I often questioned why we got married and was often disappointed in myself that at the time my salary would never be enough for me to leave and care for my son and mother without my husband’s help. I cried and prayed and prayed and cried. I knew my life wasn’t supposed to be that way, but I didn’t see a way out, a glimmer of hope, nor a light at the end of the tunnel. All I saw were overdue notices, people who looked just as miserable as me on my train rides to and from work because we only had one car….and my son’s smile and milestones. Those smiles and milestones kept me moving, and praying that God indeed had something much better for us.

Then there it was, the pinhole. The light started shining, although not the brightest, but we were squinting. Love started conquering all, we bought a house, we were living the dream..sort of. Mommy died, while physically we were moving up, emotionally I fell back down. Grief ensued, I tucked into myself and one day I had the resolve to beat those feelings, pick myself up and continue on. We had come so far after all. New cars followed much deserved promotions, faith and determination fueled our conquests. The hard work was paying off, we kept it moving. We’ve done a ton in five years and if we got through that mess we can surely get through anything together. Life has surely dealt us its wrath and compassion through heartbreak and immeasurable rewards.

So why am I so enamored with the past? What was back there that is holding my thoughts captive. I speculate that I really want to know when the change came, but I can’t remember. I wish I would have blogged that part of my life to chart my growth, or maybe the pastor was right, and God allows us to conquer things to never revisit them again because their purpose has been served…to move us to the next level. I just wonder why my thoughts can’t leave well enough alone.

I know I’m not the only one out there..Have you ever overcome something and can’t remember anything except for the fact that it happened and some photos?

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Family• My Babies• Parenting

Back to Normal

Snowpocalypse has come and gone and everything in the “A” is back to normal…thank goodness. My son has not seen the classroom for basically a month. He had three weeks off for Christmas, went to school for two days and was out all of last week. He is ready and so am I.

Weekend was low key, a few weeks ago I decided to trade in my frequent flier miles for magazine subscriptions. I had to be honest with myself, I wasn’t going anywhere any time soon so seeing that I LOVE magazines this was a deal. I was very surprised to open my mailbox on Friday and find THREE shiny magazines staring at me. Did I mention I love magazines in all of their shiny, colorful, flashy glory. I stare at the photos, and I have been known to read an article or two. I stayed up way too late that night poring over their pages forgetting Saturday I would be running a daycare around here.

A friend of mine needed me to watch her children on Saturday, so I signed up to take on two 8 month olds, a 3 year old and a 5 year old…solo, all by myself..for 8 long hours. I survived, they tag teamed me at times, but I came out victorious, frazzled but nonetheless victorious. Shortly after she came to pick up her babies, the Mr. came home and as tired as I was I needed a moment to myself. I ventured out to Walmart and did the grocery shopping and picked up a few items for myself..you know nail polish, mascara, a book..the usual. Sunday, I whipped up a pretty decent dinner, put the kids to bed and enjoyed my Sunday chock full of trashy reality television.

Look at Lil Mama...she hasn't had those teeth for a week yet

Monday, I spent the day discussing with my son the great works of Dr. King and we watched a documentary. We had plans to venture down to Dr. King’s childhood home and visit the King Center but I woke up with a splitting headache so we will make that trek this weekend. As I was watching the documentary, it hit me that 40 years has not passed since this country has seen such large strides in the advancement of equality for all people. Viewing the program made me very thankful for Dr. King and his dream that has allowed me the ability to provide an experience for my children that their great grandparents didn’t have the opportunity to see. That realization has humbled me to appreciate every opportunity that I have and especially the influence I have on my children to reach for the sky and dream big, its my duty as their mother. Being a parent is such a daunting task…

Speaking of parenting, my dad rocks. He is a photographer and worked for National Geographic his entire career before he retired. He recently upgraded his camera and sent me his old one which just happens to be a Canon Rebel. I am just recently getting interested in photography and was surprised to find out that this camera is the “bee’s knees” in the blogging world. Please be prepared to be inundated with photos as a hone my craft…bwahahaha or should I say just figure out how to turn this thing on.

I am looking forward to this week, I have a meeting on Wednesday with a mentor/mentee group that I work with and on Thursday I am really excited about attending a vision board party that I have been invited to. Enough of my ramblings.

How was your weekend/MLK day?

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